07-26-03 @ 9:20 am EDT

This entry has nothing to do with the original person this journal was started for, so don't worry about that; I have yet to be bothered again by him. Rather this is about another Writing.com user who has been bothering me for some time now. They have NOT been harassing me; I thought I should make that clear. They have stayed within their bounds except for the few times they've e-mailed me after I thought I'd made it clear I didn't want to hear from them, so please know this entry has nothing to do with harassment. This is just griping. I'm posting it here because of the access restrictions on my journals. I do not want this person to read this entry because I know it will give them more fodder to play with.

If you are one of this user's friends and recognize who I'm talking about and decide to tell them the details of this entry, or that I even posted it, then I hope you have fun at my expense because I can't see any other reason why you'd want to do that. I'm not libelling anyone here, just complaining, and I hope to keep this vague enough that nobody is hurt personally by it.

That having been said, here goes...

There is a certain user here who seems to be inordinately obsessed with me, based on how often they comment about my journal entries in THEIR journal. I've even pointed this out several times in my journal but they don't seem to see the similarities between us in this respect. I will admit upfront that I have a problem in that I seek out negativity: I keep reading this person's journal, and responding negatively to their posts in my own journal. However, starting last night, I decided to stop doing that--reading their journal, that is--so that for once I can be the bigger person. I did click to see the TITLES of new entries and while I did not read them, I believe the most recent one was aimed at me based on its title. But I have not read its contents; I could be wrong. The reason I'm not reading the entries anymore is so this person cannot say I am just as bad as they are; in fact, they've never been able to admit that they have been doing the exact SAME thing I've been doing, and they have not apparently noticed their own hypocrisy. THIS is what has bothered me the most about them. They are free to write whatever they want about me in their journal; I don't care. But as long as they keep seeming to think they are somehow in a better position than I am, a position fit to tell ME how to live my life (and they HAVE done this), a position fit to judge me as worse off than they are, yes I'm going to be pissed off because they are such a big fat hypocrite based on their very behavior, and they don't even know it. Hypocrites, in particular those who are ignorant of their own hypocrisy, piss me off. If I do not read this person's journal and thus do not rant about their entries, yet they still read MY journal and rant about MY entries, then I am no longer a hypocrite but they are. Fitting.

Let me try to introduce the situation by posting an entry I posted in an ANONYMOUS journal. Some details might be edited for privacy, length, and clarity issues. I wish I had the energy to just type up the story from scratch as suits this site here, but I don't so here is the copy.

From July 20:

Hypocritical Much?

Ah, the Hypocrite strikes again...I think I'll refer to them as that from now on, the Hypocrite, because that's what they're best at.

This might take a while.

I "met" them first on a writing website we were both members of. We never much interacted; the total of our interactions, I think, was a few comments we tossed at each other over our journals or some such. For a while I thought they were okay, but their comments grew annoying. They were one of those people who would harp at me whenever I posted my negative or "whiny" entries--you know, one of the "Get out of the house and do something about your life if it bugs you so much" crowd.

Now I fully understand the INTENT of such people--SOME of them probably think they're doing some sort of good. And for many people, such advice holds--you have to do something if you want things to get better. BUT, as I have said so many damn times in my journal that I can't even count anymore, I have a severe phobia when it comes to dealing with people--and nobody to help me through this problem. My family? Heh, forget that idea. No friends, and of course, nobody online who wishes to help, even if they could. Some people do offer support, but online support is not the same as the real thing. If I could have it my way, I would be back in therapy, and perhaps THAT would help me on my way.

BUT, lacking insurance and even a driver's license, with barely any money to spare, that's out. So instead I sit and give myself my own therapy, by griping in my journal. It hurts no one.

But to hear such "advice-givers" tell it, you'd think I'd held a gun to their head to make them read my entries. "Shut up and stop whining! Your life is no worse than anyone else's! Get off your butt and do something!" I've told them repeatedly: "If you want me to get off my butt, then drive over here and give me the money to see a shrink. Drive me there and wait outside while I'm in session. Then drive me home and make sure you return when I need to go see her again. Also, be on call 24 hours a day in case I have a personal emergency. Are you still interested in helping me?"

Nope, they never reply to requests like that. Plus, they never EVER reply to my positive entries--only the negative ones. Interesting, isn't it, how they seem to be SEEKING OUT NEGATIVITY?? Hmmmmmmm. Very telling.

Well, after this person's comments began going more along those lines, I just stopped replying to them. They never commented enough to be harassing, so we both just fell into rather ignoring each other. I checked out their journal every so often for whatever reason and toward the "end," they grew increasingly whiny about their OWN life. Their lover/pseudolover/whateverthehelltheywere...they broke up and this person devolved into purple prose over it. The whole "I miss how our bodies touch, I am empty without my lover, we are like two halves of the same bla bla bla bla..." Made me gag to read it with how forced and false it sounded--like people really THINK that when they've broken up?--but I didn't say a word. It was their journal, their space to say what they wished.

Eventually they whined that nobody ever read their regular writing anymore except their journal, then deleted their entire account. I found their website link through their offsite journal and they had some photography of theirs there...and I will admit, some of it was good. I had even told them so, once or twice. Some of it however was just stupid...the stereotypical, way-overdone "Ohhh, look at the cuts on my arms, isn't this DEEEEEP? Don't you just FEEEEEEL my pain...?" (No offense to cutters--I am a self-injurer too--but I will never understand the need of some people to post pictures of their injuries as if it's some kind of deep art. It wouldn't be so bad if they just said "Here's a picture of my cuts." Instead they usually act all artsy about it...which is annoying, and makes the rest of us SI'ers look like attention-hogs.) Their writing and journal entries I found boring so I lapsed on checking them out and moved on.

WELL...I found later that they had rejoined the first site under a new account. Their handle of choice itself makes me gag...perhaps it was not intended, but it makes them sound as if they are placing themselves above everybody else. "Look at me, I'm so much better than all of you, so wise for my years!" Even their new journal description sounds the same way, as if they are so very wise and all knowing. Whatever. At first I was kind of amused to see them back--they couldn't keep themselves away very long, could they!--but felt no real ill will. I even checked out their journal again, but then they put it on private. That was when they first criticized me about my own journal.

Why? Simple: I had posted one of those online personality quizzes. Yep. I went into detail about the results, and took the test from the POV of some of my characters. (As a writer of fiction who believes character is even more important than plot, I tend to do this. It's weird, yes, but harmless.) After my own results I said, "Holy *$*#&$*S#. I knew I was messed up, but not THAT messed up." I was being joking, although the results DID seem accurate. Let's face it, who knows my own psychological state better than myself?

(Note: I don't feel like digging up this particular entry; just rest assured that the way I described it pretty much sums it up. It was some longwinded talk about how accurate the test results were for my characters. If you regularly read my journal you'll know this is something I often do and it's relatively harmless; in fact, I think it HELPS me write better, since I'm taking the time to delve into my characters' personalities. Hence, I don't see it as pointless drivel, the way this person saw it as.)

This person e-mailed me to harp, "Instead of sitting around blathering about psychology tests and your characters, why don't you use that time to seek help" or "to work on and send out your writing for publication" or something...can't remember which, exactly. They also added, "And I don't think your life is any more messed up than anyone else's--it's a simple test and you took the results way too seriously."

This made me fume. BITCH BITCH BITCH, why don't you. I post a lame psychology test and they practically throw a fit. Why did my entry piss them off so much? Oh, it was not DEEP and purple enough for them? I e-mailed them back with,

"I think that YOU are the one taking things too seriously. I was simply having fun posting the results of the test and talking about my characters. No more, no less. It's not as if I'm going to log off and obsess over the results the rest of the day as if they are a diagnosis. I think you read into my entry a little too much."

Again I have to paraphrase as this was a while ago, but you get the picture. I pretty much told them that THEY were the one overreacting, not me; I had just been having fun in my own way. I then went back to my journal and posted some entries about the situation. I stated what I've already stated here, though in much more detail: When I'm whining, unless I specifically ask for it, I am NOT asking for advice. Especially not some wannabe who thinks they are so much wiser than myself snapping, "Get off your butt!" Tough love has never EVER worked with me. It does not work with everybody, I hate to say. I again also asked, where are you people when I AM asking for advice? You never answer me then, oddly enough. How come you only respond to my negative entries? If you're so insistent on helping me, why don't you drive me to find a shrink since you think there is a free one around somewhere who will treat me? And whenever I post a HAPPY entry in which I HAVE accomplished something, how come none of you are EVER there to congratulate me?

No responses, of course. Typical! I found it especially haughty how they had their own journal set to PRIVATE yet felt free to grouse at ME how to write in MINE.

We lapsed into mutual annoyed silence yet again. Until a little while back I noticed their journal was again public, and checked it out. All right, so THIS is where you may blame me for my own behavior. I happened to find an old entry from around January (when it was still set to PRIVATE), and it was obviously about me. In it they ranted about how they hated it when people whined about their lives yet did nothing to help themselves, bla bla bla, typical junk. There is always the SLIGHT chance they were not referring to me in particular, though I'm almost 100% positive that I was INCLUDED in their description, even if I was not the subject of it. Because it was the same crap they'd directed straight at ME before.

They pretty much whined about how people like myself posted in our journals rather than doing something to better ourselves. Wah wah. This person was really one to talk. I read their other entries and they were the same old things, breaking up/making up, do I really love my lover, crappy purple prose, the same. I forgot to mention that one of the reasons I tapered off reading their personal journal before they left the site was because they had just gotten boring. Too bad I couldn't keep myself away, huh?

Well, annoyed by this entry, yet recognizing their right to type it up, I just decided to post my OWN entry. I had no reason to believe they were even still reading my journal because they are so good and superior to everyone else, why WOULD they be, right? My entry went like this.

(Please see this entry in Skew: Good Company Also note that the entry in question currently has fourteen hits, making it relatively popular compared to my other entries--for some reason my negative entries tend to get more hits than the positive ones. Interesting, hmmmmm...?)

Yes, I remember now on reading back on that entry; this person pretty much said that I needed to get a life instead of writing in my journal. Wow, how mature! I could have told them the exact same thing. We can ALL say the same things to anybody who writes in an online journal. Even those who have nothing but happy entries. I find it perpetually odd how this gripe is always aimed at ME but for some reason can never be aimed at THIS person.

They e-mailed me again after that entry! Can you believe it? They are STILL reading my journal. Talk about obsessive. I didn't bother reading it because I KNOW again what they'll say. "Oh, get a life, quit whining, I've been through worse than you, we all have troubles, get off the computer if it bugs you so much." I should not have to tell them yet AGAIN: "Oh yeah? Why don't you take your own 'advice' and GET OFF THE COMPUTER if my journal bothers you so badly? Hm? Huh?"

That argument always shuts them up because they are never willing to listen to it. For some bizarre reason, they always employ this weird double standard which says that if *I* whine in my journal, I have no life and need to get one, whereas if THEY whine in their journals, they're entitled to it because they have a life and are obligated to tell me to get one! I really don't understand the reasoning.

I ignored their e-mail and went on with my life. Yes, I have to confess that I do keep up on their journal and read their entries. So here is the point where I am being hypocritical. At least I realize it though, and don't send them unwanted e-mails telling them to get a life and stop journaling. I recognize they have that right. I'm not even going to tell them they need to get a life, whether I feel they need to or not. I believe that unless they've been TOTAL assholes (and this person has not--not quite yet), everybody deserves a modicum of respect. Even if it's just to keep ME from being a hypocrite like they are.

The other day I visited an online photo community and joined, posting a nature picture. I happened to notice a pic on the main page and it was very popular...it consisted of nothing more than...well, here's that part of my entry...read for yourself.

(Please see this entry in Skew: Happy Birthday Skew! *woo* The part in question goes:

(I found a semi-interesting site...I don't know how long I'll stick around it as my moods always change depending on how much interaction there is or not. (Basically, if there is zero interest in me, I leave. I already warned you about this being my self-centered playground, so if you're thinking of saying something...) You can upload only one photo a day. But it's an interesting concept, that of a photo log. The only real problem is too many people uploading total crap and proclaiming themselves great photographers/artists. I actually saw a picture of a gash in the sidewalk and everyone was commenting on it and drooling over it like it was FANTASTIC! *gag* Come on, anybody could have taken that shot; there wasn't even anything inherently artsy about it. Not even mood lighting. Most of what I photograph is total crap, but at least I don't try to pass it off as art; I take a pretty nature picture and for the most part that's all I'll say it is, a pretty nature picture. The same way as my poetry, when I had it posted here, was meant to be pretty trifles and nothing more. Just because you take a picture or write a poem does not make you a photographer or a poet, but bla bla, anyway...)

I also made a reference to writing autobiographies, about how most of them were boring and I felt people should not write them unless they had something interesting or witty to write about anyway. There was much more to the entry which had nothing to do with either one of these subjects--and truthfully, I only referenced the autobio thing in the first place because the entry was referring to the birthday of my own journal, and how surprised I was that I had managed to maintain my own online "autobio" for so long, considering how boring I am.

Anyway, I noticed they updated their journal today...and in their entry they bitched about how people who weren't even photographers, yet judged other people's photos, were bigheaded and self-aggrandizing and yadda yadda, I can't remember the adjectives used, but they were pretty clear. "I'm not a photographer by any means--I just dabble in it," they snapped. "The same with my poetry--most of it is junk. But I don't go telling others that their photography and writing is junk when I don't have the experience necessary to critique it in such a way. People who do that are being grandiose and vain bla bla bla."

Now...I must confess. When I had talked about photography and bios in my entry, I HAD had this person in mind. Their "deep" photos and poetry, and their own self-described attempt at starting an autobio, were in my mind. But I was also referring to the slews of others online--for example, the photographer of the gash in the sidewalk--who try to pass themselves off as artists. It genuinely pisses me off to see stuff like that get attention while people with actual talent are reviled as hacks. It's that way everywhere, even offline. But yes, I had had this person in mind when typing, even if they were not the only subject.

Still...hmmmmm! I find their angry reaction rather telling as well. They got angry in the same way I did when I read THEIR entry about journals. So I think it's safe to say they read my journal yet AGAIN and the entry hit a nerve. Which means it must be at least partially true. (I fully recognize all my own hypocrisy in this incident, so you don't need to point it out or think I don't know it's there--I do, as much as I wish it wasn't.) (Besides, based on how this person has presented their material online in the past, I really do NOT think they are as self-conscious and humble about their art as they claim. Nobody can write the florid purple entries this person does and still have no faith in their work.)

(Interesting, too, how they STILL made no positive reference to the positive parts of any of my entries! Not ever! They only focus on the NEGATIVE parts...remember what I already said, about seeking out negativity...?)

What I find most interesting, though, is this person's self-contradictions.

"I'm not a professional photographer so I think it's rude to tell others how to photograph things!"

Well if that's so, why are you saying that *I* don't have the right to critique others' material, while YOU do? By their own, and my own, explanations, neither of us has the expertise needed to make thorough critiques on these subjects. Yet in their entry they pretty much claimed that they had the right to critique me, to tell me what I should and should not know, and tell me to shut up, but I did not have that same right. Who was the first person who told ME, after all, to shut up in my OWN space?

And can they really claim that a photograph of a gash in a sidewalk is ART and I can't tell that because I'm not an artist? You do not always have to have a degree in art to tell if something is good or is crap, you know. ART IS SUBJECTIVE, DUH!

They said that I did not have the expertise needed to critique things so I should just shut up...so, um, what gave THEM the expertise to know that I did not have the expertise needed?? If I did not have the expertise needed to say that the photo was not art, then what gave them the expertise needed to say that it WAS? Bla bla...this could go on forever. You get the picture. Bitch bitch bitch. I seriously wonder why they are still reading my journal.

I will admit upfront that I have personal problems, dwell in negativity, and even seek it out sometimes--the reason why I have continued reading this person's journal. I have NEVER seen one bit of THEM recognizing this tendency in themselves, however...their perpetual judging of me leads me to believe they think they do not have this problem. If by their own words you need certain expertise in an area to give advice, then why does this person feel entitled to keep telling me how to better my life when it's obvious they themselves don't have that experience? THEY'RE DISPLAYING THE EXACT SAME PROBLEMS I HAVE! But unlike me, they can't even tell it. I've even pointed it out to them, but they can't see what a hypocrite they're being.

"Wah wah. Do not whine in your journal, even while I whine in mine. Get off the computer if things online bother you so much; in the meantime, I am going to go moan in my journal about how your online presence bothers me. You have no right to criticize others without the same expertise that I too lack, so while you go and think that over, I am going to criticize YOU. Wahhh."

God, what a frigging baby. I was this close to posting about them in my journal...but why give them more fodder to fuel their childish obsession? They already think they're so superior to me, and so above my own problems which they THEMSELVES have made their own. (Why else would they continue to read my journal and rail against me?--they thrive on the negative!--they need it to give them something to do!--without my griping, what would THEY have to whine about?--in short, like I said, the pot and the kettle!) I never told them they had to read my journal, but they're VERY interested in my life. There's no way in hell they can still believe by now that they're helping me in any way ("Get off the computer!"--oh wow, THERE'S the money I need to hire a cab and find a shrink!--THANK YOU!), so I really do believe that they are simply making THEIR OWN equally inferior self (they are as equally as poor off as I am, mentally) feel better by thinking they are above me. By thinking they are actually in some better position from which to tell me to get a life, because they so OBVIOUSLY know what a good life is like.

Oh, thank you, God, for judging me.

Did I mention they even had an entry once which said, in effect, "All those of you who've been raped, abused, beaten, etc.--it's happened to other people and they moved on. Get over it, quit whining about it, and just move on."

People who think blanket judgements, blanket solutions, can apply to all people really piss me off. As if this person's comments to ME weren't bad enough, they had to go and say something like THAT. Telling people who have been RAPED, and ABUSED, to "just get over it" because, since THIS person has been able to (or have they??), they should be able to, too. Oh, good for you, Hypocrite. That was nice and helpful. "I've been traumatized and the pain is still with me after all these years!" "Oh? JUST GET OVER IT." How long until police and therapists start saying the same thing, since according to this person's standards saying "Get over it" is all that's needed to make somebody feel better.

To the Hypocrite: I don't see you shutting up YOUR pissing and moaning any time soon. Just keep complaining and maybe someday you WILL finally feel better at others' expense!

I can't envision that ever happening, though. It's been two years I've been whining in my journal, and I don't see that stopping soon, so they're going to have a lot more fodder to make themselves feel superior.

Poor thing.

At least I am in even better company...not only harshly judged journallers now, but also the raped, and beaten, and abused. This person has told us all to "Get over it." With as pissed off as I am, at least I can take comfort in the company I keep.

That was the first entry. What I posted next in Skew was, to sum it up, some random babbling, including a detailed description of medicine men for my fantasy series (A Manitou Island Entry (Eek, Cover Your Eyes)); no mention of the Hypocrite whatsoever. I figured they'd just grow bored of me and get over themselves and move on, since that's their mantra for me.

Later on I posted some rants which again had nothing whatsoever to do with this person and rather concerned some incidents on another website. (Miscellaneous Nothing, With Lotsa Violet)

On July 23, I posted this in my anonymous journal. I have to edit it for privacy issues but it's still possible that if you've read this person's journal you'll recognize who I'm talking about. I'd like to HOPE that we travel in different crowds and their fans are not my fans, but I can't be sure; they THEMSELVES have read Skew religiously, have they not? Anyway, just please take my word for it that I reported exactly what I'd seen...

HAH! The Hypocrite Returns.

See my last entry for all the background info. Just wanted to share how the Hypocrite just showed their true colors.

They posted an entry about how much they hate those communities and contests on various websites, where people post their pictures to see if they're...well, attractive. While I DO agree with this person to an extent that it's good for the prideful ones to get their egos knocked down a notch or two, they then said that it was their fault for "putting themselves on the meat market."

This is the SAME person who bitched about MY complaint about sub-par photography with "Somebody who doesn't know much about photography as a profession shouldn't be judging those people anyway and should just keep their mouth shut."

Wellllll, isn't this interesting? I already pointed out the hypocrisy in THIS person's (somebody who admittedly doesn't know much about photography) telling ME I should not criticize (if we are both so ignorant on the subject, then how can they rightfully tell ME I don't know enough to judge?). NOW their argument has been modified to THIS: If it's supposedly "artsy" photography, I'm NOT free to criticize it because I "don't know" enough about photography to criticize it. (You do NOT have to be a professional photographer or artist to know if a picture of a gash in the sidewalk is art or junk, trust me.) But if it's PERSONAL photography, pictures of people, then THIS person is free to criticize it all they want and even to say in one sentence that such competitions are bad because they allow the beautiful people to hurt others' feelings, yet in the next sentence to say that "everybody" (not just the beautiful people) needs their egos knocked down a bit. (Everybody?...then what was the deal a moment ago razzing on only the BEAUTIFUL people? I think somebody has some inferiority issues.)

For the record, this person has posted LOTS of pictures of THEMSELVES online...not, apparently, to be judged on the "meat market" (what's their definition of the meat market?...they are also the one, BTW, who told me I should not take online personality tests so seriously (even when I wasn't), but they seem to be taking online beauty contests pretty damn seriously, don't they?), but they DID try to arts them up with filters and stuff and the result is that this person looks both vain and kind of crappy, because the filters make the pictures look junky. (One was some kind of black and white filter that totally got rid of shades of gray and as a result they looked all black and white and blotchy and way overexposed. THEY must have thought it was artsy enough to post, but I thought it just looked like hell. But according to their (hypocritical) argument, who am I to judge?)

(Please keep in mind that I do not think this of all their photography. They DID have some good photos that I've seen, which I commented on. I did not rate or review the picture described above; it's probably gone by now.)

It was rather amusing to see this gaping double standard thing they've got going on regarding photography in general, and the mini-double standard they had regarding the big double standard (whether only beautiful people should be degraded, or everybody). The Hypocrite strikes yet again.

At least I know what sort of ground I'm standing on now, if they can't even make up their own damn mind where they stand. I feel a bit better about the last entry. Not only are they a hypocrite, they're a FICKLE hypocrite.

I think it was the following day or so, this person posted in their journal and made brief reference to their fears of ending up like a certain paranoid person--"Some of you might know who I'm talking about." The only actual detail they gave was that this paranoid person was female. And apparently on this website, if other readers would know who they're talking about. Can I assume then that this person has privately talked with their readers about me? Because I don't have to be paranoid to know who they were talking about. My "violet" entry made reference to me thinking people were turning on me, and many times in Skew this theme has popped up in my entries. This person, if they were NOT actually referring to me, was then referring to somebody who sounds an awful lot LIKE me, regarding issues of trust and being shut off from the world. They also knew I was reading their journal, so probably tossed the comment out there in the hopes I'd take the bait or whatever.

Well, I must confess I did, though I did not want to. If you know me you know that anything I take as an insult gets to me until I air it publicly, and even then it still bugs me. I then posted this entry, What's So Special About Her?, and yes, there is reference to the Hypocrite in it. That reference is here:

On another, similar, note, there is someone else who seems to love getting in little jabs at me whenever they can, and I can't see why they don't just quit obsessing about me. They are another case of somebody who seems to hate me because of the sole purpose that they don't like reading my posts. Why do they read me if they can't stand me? You can argue the same thing about me, that I should just stop reading that which bothers me, but I will be the first to admit I seek out negativity and such and that it isn't healthy, and I have a problem. These other people don't seem to recognize that tendency in themselves and in fact seem to think they are above me, or better off than I am; at least, both of them have tried to dictate to me how to act as if they know what will work for me.

A news flash: What works for one person will not necessarily work for another. And people who think the same solution applies to every similar situation...well, I won't say what I think of them, nor how misguided that belief is. This is one of the reasons I don't suggest solutions unless asked because my solutions may have worked only for me.

Following that I posted some other, unrelated entries with no reference to this person. They didn't update their journal, so AGAIN I hoped they had lost interest in me.

They updated twice and this was after I stopped reading their entries. The title of the first entry was neutral enough so no bother. The second one, from yesterday, again made reference to paranoia, so I think it's safe to believe it was aimed at me and at my reference to this person's reference to ME. (Sorry this is so confusing, but you see how we BOTH keep keeping it up?)

All I have to say about their whole paranoia argument is this: If I am in fact just being paranoid and their entries had NOTHING to do with me (yeah, right--like they'd just stop writing about me, NOW?), then how come the references to paranoia keep popping up only AFTER I refer to this person's entries? Interesting timing, huh? Remember what they say: Just because you're paranoid doesn't mean they're not out to get you.

No, this person is not out to get me, but I'll be damned if I'm going to believe that their entries have NOTHING to do with me. If they think they can keep getting in their little jabs at me in an oh-so-clever (actually not that clever and not too subtle) way in their entries, since I no longer read their e-mails, they've got another thing coming. I just won't read the entries anymore. Thus I won't feel compelled to respond to them in my own journal, thus...this person won't have any fodder to feed off of. Sure, they will continue judging me behind my back, on my entries which have NOTHING to do with them--see what first started this entire thing, their grousing about me needing a life back in January. That meant they were bitching about me even when they had no reason to believe I was reading, because their journal was private for a time. Get this: THEY BITCH ABOUT ME EVEN WHEN I'M NOT READING! I realize I did that in the anonymous journal, and here too, but at least I can see that I did it. This person thinks they are in such a superior position to judge ME and tell ME to shut up and get offline if things bug me so much, yet they feel so bothered that they post about ME behind my back and bitch about me in their entries? I did not call them a hypocrite for no reason. God, it's so blatant I really don't understand why they can't see it.

(Also notice how quick they were to get defensive when I posted the anti-photography entry, which made NO reference to them whatsoever?--hmmmm, paranoia works both ways, doesn't it? It was obvious my words struck a nerve with them, but how could THEY have known I had them in mind unless they were assuming, thus being "paranoid"? They have ALSO claimed I was obsessed, back when I was dealing with my harasser, because I so frequently posted about him, and told me I should just let it go. But now they are the one who seems to be obsessed with me. Interesting, yet again, how their argument applies to me but not to them...why don't they just get over me, if they think they are so much more rational than I am? Hm?)

According to this person's own argument (re: photography), you must have requisite experience in order to tell somebody how to do something. Well, I certainly wish they would learn how to quit taking the Net so seriously, quit bitching in their journal, and log off when things start to bother them--BEFORE they feel free to tell me to do all the same! Because since they obviously have the SAME problems I do, I do not think they are qualified to tell ME what to do to make my life better.

"Quit bitching in your journal and spend time in the real world! Me?...oh, I'm going to keep bitching in my journal, about you...but...well, I have that right! You just have no life! Log off and go get one! In the meantime I'm going to stay here and bitch..."

This would be like me, being jobless, telling THEM how to go get a job. Even if I did have a job, I would not necessarily be qualified to give advice on how to get one. Like I already said, what works for somebody doesn't necessarily work for everybody, and you'd think somebody who displays SOME amount of intelligence would know this. But if they think that telling rape victims and such to "just get over it and quit whining about it" works, then I think I understand now with whom I'm dealing. Reason has not worked, as this entry shows. So here I post it where they CANNOT read it, and even if they're free to post to Kingdom Come about me in their journal, you think they'd see what a whiny hypocrite they are.

I'm not mad about them bitching about me in their journal--that's their right. It's much better than them e-mailing me or harassing me. I'm grateful that they haven't stooped to THAT just yet. But them telling me to quit bitching, while they keep doing the same thing? That pisses me off no end. Take your own advice JUST ONCE, Hypocrite, and FUCK OFF if my whining bugs you so much. I'm taking a break from THEIR journal, yet I doubt they'll be able to take a break from mine. For once, I will be the bigger person. That will feel good!

Once more, if you are a friend of said journaller above, I ask you not to spread information about this entry to them. If you read this here in Skew 2 just keep it to yourself, please. Now that I'm no longer reading their journal I hope to make no more reference to their entries, although I can't say I won't refer to THEM as a person. Please respect the access restriction of this journal and keep what you read, here. If there is any future reference to ME in THEIR journal, we'll know who's still being the hypocrite...well, THEIR readers will know. I won't, since I will no longer be reading it. I hope they have fun at my expense and show just how little--and obsessed--they really are.

And if this person for some reason clicks on and views this entry in one of the nonrestricted versions of Skew...have fun. Without me.


...BTW, I posited the "Rape victims should just quit whining and get over it" situation to some people on another website not long ago. It got about five or six responses. EVERY SINGLE ONE was along the lines of "People heal in different ways. If 'whining' about it helps them heal, then let them do it. You don't have to read it. I hope YOU are never in the same situation and are told to just get over it." So once again, it looks like I am in pretty good company.

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